Being a wife is tough. Being a Proverbs 31 type of wife is tougher. Being a Pastor’s wife is the toughest. When I married John, he was an ordained minister. It wasn’t a selling point or a deal breaker. To be honest, I didn’t give it much thought as to what impact it would have on me or our marriage. To me, it was just a fact. It wasn’t until I noticed the reactions of other folks to me being married to a minister that caused me pause.
People have preconceived ideas and expectations as to what a Pastor wife should be, how she should act and how she should speak. It’s as if you as a person cease to exist once you marry a minister. Please don’t misunderstand, I’m not complaining – I’m simply sharing my thoughts and experiences. Remember, this is the ‘Diary of this Pastor’s Wife.’
Even to this day, I do not share the fact that I’m a Pastor’s wife because quite frankly I’m not interested in being judged by their definition of a “Pastor Wife.” However, as I mature, I have accepted that people will judge because that’s what we do. And it’s ok. But as I mature in God’s Word, I’ve found peace in the midst of it because He is the only judge that matters. I know this and now I’m learning to live my life as if I’m on stage with an audience of 1.
What a great revelation?! This revelation has freed me to really start enjoying the fruit of our marriage. My focus shifted from them to HIM and as a result – it has blessed our union. We vowed to love, cherish and support each other in and through the ups and downs of life until death. And in this journey, we’re growing together, fighting for our abundant life and having fun at the same time!
To see how we’re fighting for our abundant life as a couple by using the Word of God, check out our guide ‘Enjoying the Fruit of Your Marriage.’ You can get it in eBook or paperback.
Also, watch our new video series by the same name starting on February 10, 2018 on our YouTube channel Christlike Fellowship. It will be a 9- part series.
WORD OF COMFORT OR CONVICTION Galatians 5:22-23(NIV) – 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
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