In one of our many conversations about relationships, the Pastor Hubby once said – women have the power but some of them just don’t know what to do with it. What exactly did he mean? Was he low key throwing shade?
I had to pump my brakes and get out of my feelings and think. Why does it appear that some women who seem to have it all – always end up alone? It’s baffling because they never have trouble attracting the opposite sex. As a matter of fact- they always seem to have a man. Or, at the very least, a person who is anatomically correct.
Now that I’m in my late forties, I view things differently. A blogger out of Brooklyn wrote a book titled– Don’t Waste Your Pretty. I think some women should adopt that as their mantra – Stop Wasting Your Pretty!
Sometimes I think we as women get caught up in the messaging we receive on a daily basis – especially in this age of social media. It seems that we forget or perhaps really don’t understand that our true power is not only about our physical attributes. Please don’t misunderstand, I’m not naïve to think that a good optic can sway opinions and open doors.
When I think about what the Pastor Hubby said – he said women have the power. He didn’t say some women, slim women, curvy women, women that society labels as “pretty” women, women who slay, “lit” women, you get my point. He simply said women. So, that tells me, the power he spoke of – must be something that God gave each of us. What is this “power?”
When I think about some of the relationships that I’ve seen up close and from a distance that seemed to have stood the test of time, I have often wondered, what makes that woman different? I’ve always been intrigued by the women of the relationship because I’ve often heard people say- behind every good man is a strong woman. Notice I said a good man- not a perfect man. Because if any of us were perfect, God would not have had to send His Son Jesus to die for our sins.
I mean the world saw it when Barack looked at Michelle. A look of admiration. That look of extreme pride and appreciation. I recall reading an interview he did and he referred to her as “exquisite.” What woman would not want a man to love her the way he seems to love that woman. Not as an object to be possessed but as a spirit to be treasured.
I recognized the look Barack gave Michelle because it was the same way my daddy looked at my momma. I remember my daddy use to say no matter how much weight I gained – your momma made me feel like a king. He said it was his pleasure to work extra hours so that he could see her face light up when he said “We’re going out to eat!” And the more I think about it- it was obvious that my daddy found my momma attractive but when he spoke of her – he would get this look that said- I would do anything for that woman.
The similarities in character that I saw in Michelle Obama from a distance and what I saw in my momma daily was grace, the ability to support their man without losing a sense of self, the art of subtle persuasion and a quiet but effective level of authority as their man’s confidant.
Hmmm… you know what, I think that’s the power the Pastor Hubby was speaking of… REAL power comes from God. The ability to use this power, lies in the strength of my relationship with the One who gives the power.
WORD OF COMFORT OR CONVICTION Proverbs 31:28 (NIV) Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her
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