Hi! My name is Vestina and I watch Real Housewives reality shows. They say the first step to recovery is to admit you have a problem. Ok, I’m being a bit extra. But for those who know me- being extra is not out of my character.
If you watch or are willing to admit you watch any one of The Real Housewives reality TV shows, you may get a sense of what the subject of this post will be. If you don’t watch any of these shows, DON’T START!
I had to question why I or anyone would find these shows entertaining. They do nothing to celebrate the “true” beauty of being a woman or a wife but yet they are wildly popular and that makes them profitable. Why is that?! Why do we enjoy the over-the-top, unnecessary, “ratchet” behavior of these women and men? These shows make me feel schizophrenic because I am appalled at the behavior but I can’t help but watch. And when did it become ok to call yourself or your girlfriend a female dog as if it’s a term of empowerment or endearment?
So I ask myself again, why do I watch these shows? And…after some thought, I came to the conclusion that maybe – just maybe- the characters are a reflection of how we act or how we want to act.
Whatever the motivation is, I recognize that watching these shows are in direct conflict with a person trying to live like Christ every day.
On to the point of this post….
When I watch these shows, I see them as a form of entertainment. And yes, some would question how I could find them entertaining. And my response at this time would be – if you read this far, I’ll remind you that I started this post admitting that I have a problem- LOL!
One of the greater issues – in my humble opinion- is what impact do shows like these have on our young girls today? I do not have any biological children but I have a heart and a sense of responsibility to do my part by living my life as a woman who believes in Christ. The bible clearly says in Titus2:3-5 (NIV) “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
Whether you’re a wife, Pastor’s wife, housewife, former wife, or ‘wanna-be’ wife, I challenge us as Christian women to examine ourselves against the Word of God so that we can be the best example for the young women that we are privileged to influence both individually and collectively. Because more often than not, it is what we do – not what we say to do – that our girls will do. Please reread and meditate on that last statement.
WORD OF COMFORT OR CONVICTION Proverbs 12:4(NIV) – “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”
this Pastor’s Wife