Month: August 2017

Hi! My name is Vestina and I watch Real Housewives reality shows. They say the first step to recovery is to admit you have a problem. Ok, I’m being a bit extra. But for those who know me- being extra is not out of my character.

If you watch or are willing to admit you watch any one of The Real Housewives reality TV shows, you may get a sense of what the subject of this post will be. If you don’t watch any of these shows, DON’T START!

I had to question why I or anyone would find these shows entertaining. They do nothing to celebrate the “true” beauty of being a woman or a wife but yet they are wildly popular and that makes them profitable. Why is that?! Why do we enjoy the over-the-top, unnecessary, “ratchet” behavior of these women and men? These shows make me feel schizophrenic because I am appalled at the behavior but I can’t help but watch. And when did it become ok to call yourself or your girlfriend a female dog as if it’s a term of empowerment or endearment?

So I ask myself again, why do I watch these shows? And…after some thought, I came to the conclusion that maybe – just maybe- the characters are a reflection of how we act or how we want to act.

Whatever the motivation is, I recognize that watching these shows are in direct conflict with a person trying to live like Christ every day.

On to the point of this post….

When I watch these shows, I see them as a form of entertainment. And yes, some would question how I could find them entertaining. And my response at this time would be – if you read this far, I’ll remind you that I started this post admitting that I have a problem- LOL!

One of the greater issues – in my humble opinion- is what impact do shows like these have on our young girls today? I do not have any biological children but I have a heart and a sense of responsibility to do my part by living my life as a woman who believes in Christ. The bible clearly says in Titus2:3-5 (NIV) “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

Whether you’re a wife, Pastor’s wife, housewife, former wife, or ‘wanna-be’ wife, I challenge us as Christian women to examine ourselves against the Word of God so that we can be the best example for the young women that we are privileged to influence both individually and collectively. Because more often than not, it is what we do – not what we say to do – that our girls will do. Please reread and meditate on that last statement.

WORD OF COMFORT OR CONVICTION Proverbs 12:4(NIV) – “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

Be Blessed!
this Pastor’s Wife

Yesterday I texted the hubby and asked him what he was doing. I text him every day because I am that kind of wife – LOL! He replied “Going to the store for Chief. He’s not doing well. He said he may have to go to a nursing home.”

Chief was our neighbor from a previous home where we lived. He lives alone and has no family in the area. Please don’t get it confused – I think Chief preferred it that way. He is the true definition of an Ol’ Salt. He is an 87 year old retired Navy widower. He would visit us every evening to give treats to our fur baby Bindi and bring us the newspapers that he had read for the day.

Needless to say, I had to inquire further by asking, “Did Chief call you?” the hubby replied, “Yes.” Instantly I felt sad because I knew what that meant. Back when we were neighbors, Chief was in his 70s. He was independent, tough, had no filter, yet he was sweet and generous. He loved chatting it up with the hubby.

Since moving, we have kept in touch. However, not as frequently as we did when we first moved. So, it was unusual for him to call. And, it certainly was completely out of character for him to call and ask for help.

When I finally got home from work, the hubby shared with me the condition that Chief was in and it broke my heart.

I shared this story to say this – in the midst of the hubby telling me the events of his day with Chief, God dropped in my spirit the title of this post- My Husband is M.I.A. – Ministry in Action.

Here’s the thing, since knowing my husband, he has ALWAYS been willing to help whenever anyone calls and needs a hand. And nothing has changed 14 years later. As his girlfriend, that was one of the many characteristics that I fell in love with but as his wife…let’s just say my perspective has changed. Don’t misunderstand, I still love him dearly because of his beautiful heart to serve and I know it is his calling and I completely support it. But sometimes, his calling and his wife meet at the crossroads- LOL!

God has called all of us to be M.I.A. – Ministry in Action. If you say you believe in God and have accepted HIS son Jesus as your Savior and Lord, then shouldn’t you be M.I.A. too?

Strive to be a Christian that provides active service and not just lip service.

FINAL WORD OF ENCOURAGEMENT – Mark 10:45 – “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Be Blessed!

this Pastor’s Wife